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Giving your first talk

Latest post 09-22-2008 1:48 PM by Marilyn E. Jess. 9 replies.
  • 07-31-2008 9:04 PM

    • Graeme Delglyn
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    Giving your first talk

    After last night's teleseminar on The Joy of Visibility, I wrote this...I hope it helps someone.

     

    I gave my first talk in front of a public audience 1985.  I wasn’t given an option. My boss said he wanted me to speak at a seminar on investments at the top of the World Trade Centre in three month’s time.

     

    Gulp!

     

    I had given small presentations in front of departmental colleagues before, but nothing on this level.  And it got worse.  The ‘public audience’ was 250 fund managers, investors and bankers from all over the world.

     

    I prayed for the alarm clock to go off.  It didn’t.

     

    I said to my boss that I needed his help.  If I was going to be a mental wreck for the next 12 weeks, he would have to play his part.  Agreed.

     

    He asked me to spend the next few days putting together the talk, covering the issues I would raise and making appropriate proposals.  I was to deliver the ‘dry run’ in the office presentation room at the end of the week.

     

    I was nervous enough for the dry run but muddled through it until I reached the last sentence.  It was awful.

     

    “What did you think of that?” he asked me.  It was a rhetorical question as I never had a chance to reply. “That was the worst presentation I’ve heard in my life…and I’ve heard many” he said.  I later found out that he told everyone the same thing.  I was stung by his remark, but it provided the catalyst I needed to vastly improve.

     

    He told me to build my talk around these simple guidelines:

     

    1.      Give the presentation a sequence.  Spoken or written, one point must lead to the next.  Without a sequence there’s nothing for the listener’s attention to grasp onto.   

     

    2.      Bring the audience back to what you’re saying by scattering ‘summary’ phraseology throughout the talk.

     

    Examples:

     

    “The most important aspect of this is….”

    “I want to be clear about…”

    “The major issue here is…”

    “What’s vital about this project is…”

    “The three key points are…”

     

    It doesn’t really matter what you say next but you’ve brought their attention back to what you’re saying.  Their mind stops wandering and thinks to itself “Oh he’s about to say something important, so I’d better listen.”

     

     

    3.      Listen to yourself talk first.  Better still film yourself giving your presentation.  Listen to the sound of your own voice.  It’s not nearly as bad as you think it is.  If you can hear yourself giving your talk, you’ll improve on it every time you re-run. 

    -           you’ll emphasise the right words

    -           you’ll pause well

    -           you’ll hear if you’re talking too fast

    -           you’ll soon realise if your jokes aren’t that funny

     

    4.      Deliver with passion.  That’s so much easier to do when you’ve got everything else right and you’re talking with confidence.  At least your audience will think that!

     

     

    There are lots of other useful techniques for giving top rate presentations to people.  Any good NLP book should cover this subject – looping, anchoring, visualisation, opening for kinesthetics, switching from big picture to small detail, but get these four points above right and you’ll almost be looking forward to trying it out again.

     

    My talk went down very well, thanks to these guidelines.  I never forgot these lessons and have always given presentations using this same approach.

     

    Graeme Delglyn

     

    PS I did go to a company presentation which started like this….

     

    “Good evening Ladies and Gentlemen.  I have been so nervous about giving this speech today that I decided to practice it in front of the Alcoholics Anonymous group I attend on Mondays.  I also delivered it to the Drug Rehab group I meet with on Tuesdays.  So for those of you in the audience who’ve heard me speak twice already this week, please forgive me.”

     

    It was delivered beautifully and brought the house down, probably because the audience knew the speaker well. Funny though the opening lines may be, it takes a brave person with good timing to start off like that.

     

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  • 07-31-2008 10:17 PM In reply to

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    I have made my living from speaking for the past 30 years and yet when the purpose or the audience changes, you can get nervous all over again.  Graeme's post is a real help as is the downloadable material on this site from Rick Arrandale called 'Inspired Teacher'.  Structure is incredibly important as are handouts of PowerPoints.  Think carefully before distracting people with anything other than listening to you.  It needs to add value and not distract attention.

    There was an orgainisation around until 18 months ago called SEAL - Society for Effective Affective Learning.  They were all about learning and, therefore, teaching.  SEAL was wound up after 20 or so years in existence which was really sad but you may find their traces still on the web and elsewhere. 

    Lovely funny story at the end Graeme.

    Love to all

    Sue

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  • 08-01-2008 3:08 PM In reply to

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    Hi Sue

    I agree with your thought that structure is important - paradoxically, when you have good structure, you have even more freedom within it

    Nick

    http://www.inspired-entrepreneur.com/coaching/nick

    .... to book a coaching session with Nick.

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  • 08-03-2008 8:43 PM In reply to

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    Dear Graeme,

    Yes, this post was incredibly helpful. Thank you for sharing it. As a veteran presenter myself I find that taking the temperature of an audience is as important as the strucutre. I've sensed that things were really working well, as well as when things were getting off course, reminding me that listening and reading body language is as crucial as what we say as speakers. Being genuine, and speaking your own truth are important also.

    Filming yourself--so critical, and with today's less expensive digital cameras, almost effortless!

    Cheers,

    Marilyn E. Jess, DTM
    Distinguished Toastmaster
    Certified Wellness Coach

    http://journals.aol.com/rdms87/SpeakingOf

     

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  • 08-04-2008 9:49 PM In reply to

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    Re: Giving your first talk

    Dear Marilyn

    Thanks for tyour feedback.  The point you raise about audience temperature is worth raising.  For the benefit of would-be speakers out there about to give their first talk in public, do you have any tips on what to be aware about in terms of 'audience temperature'?  Fidgeting jumps to my mind immediately, but that's a negative and I am sure there must be signs of a warm audience to embrace as well.

    At a wedding reception the traditional Best Man speech is often the first time a man speaks in public.  Nervous as he may be, there is a great asset on his side and its called champagne.  It liberates the audience long before the speech is given.  Business presentations don't have that resource!

    Graeme

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  • 08-05-2008 1:53 AM In reply to

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    Thanks for the link to Randy Pausch's last talk on your web site, Marilyn - quite a guy and what a way to go!  Loads of energy - he clearly had his audience in the palm of his hand.

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  • 08-06-2008 12:22 AM In reply to

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    You're most welcome! I know that the link has been posted in many places, and I feel that the content and delivery of that presentation are SO important. If you are human, you need to watch and listen to Randy's lecture. His message will live on for many years. Glad you enjoyed the video.

     

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  • 08-06-2008 12:30 AM In reply to

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    Dear Graeme,

    A misstep I see many speakers make is not getting enough information about the audience they will be speaking with. You want to be as comfortable up there as possible. This, plus a keen eye, and really honing in on body language, helps you to adjust during a talk. When I say gather information I mean things like:

    • all the demographics you can get your hands on--gender, age, income, where they live, positions in a company if that applies
    • what major issues/challenges are they facing now?
    • company culture, if that applies
    • are they hostages (were they sent there) or do they want to be there?
    • greet folks at the door as they come in to get last minute feedback
    • what three questions do they want answered before you leave?

    Hope this helps.

     

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  • 08-10-2008 9:28 AM In reply to

    • happynurse
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    Re: Giving your first talk

    I also like something that Nick said in his 'starting in the speaking business' talk

    'They won't remember all you say, but they will remember how you made them feel'

    Connection, emotion and relevance!

    Claire

    www.happynurses.co.uk

     

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  • 09-22-2008 1:48 PM In reply to

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    Yes, they will remember that. Emotions make speeches memorable. So do your personal stories.

     

    Marilyn

     

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